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**jackstar** · #21 (**permalink**) 08-12-2008, 01:20 PM

I don't necessarily pick and choose AM's based on where they were raised. However, I do believe that it would be a lot easier to relate to a Western born Asian then an Eastern one primarily because we would have both grown up in the same kind of culture... It's hard for me to explain- what I'm trying to say is although our cultures may be different we can still connect because the societies we live in are primarily the same... If that makes sense...

**Jade** · #22 (**permalink**) 08-12-2008, 05:24 PM

Yeah it does Jackstar. I am of the same mind.

katdgrant · #23 (**permalink**) 08-24-2008, 12:42 AM

I love them all but I prefer men who are raised right, if they were born here and not raised right, they wont be so nice, but if their family brought them up right and has good values, it don't matter where born. I have been with mainly men from Asia thou.

Keno Zhang · #24 (**permalink**) 09-28-2008, 03:53 AM

both fine, I guess

Henryzhao · #25 (**permalink**) 09-28-2008, 04:06 AM

I think the Asian guys born in Asian culture background is authentic Asian guy, lol...

taitai · #26 (**permalink**) 09-28-2008, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by friskygambit

Why wouldn't you be able to relate to an Asian-American?

What's the difference between an Asian-American and any other American?

The first question I would answer if you're really interested. It will be a very boring answer for the majority of people here.

The second sentiment I didn't express but if you would still like an answer from me in particular I could synthesize one but it'd also be boring to the vast majority of people.

taitai · #27 (**permalink**) 09-28-2008, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by TDeep

What would you say makes someone in-tune with their heritage and what makes them cross over into being a "banana" in your eyes?

I can name my family as an example where my grandparents on both sides, as well as my parents eschew Confucianism, choosing to adhere more to the ideas of Lao Tze. As a result, we're often more out-spoken and independent-thinking than most of our Chinese acquaintances. This family "quirk" was never an issue while we were living in China, but frequently it seems to rub overseas Chinese the wrong way. Since I'm fairly young, I've met quite a few other Chinese who've called me a "banana" because of my independent nature and outspoken criticism of Confucian ideals. It seems to me the term "banana" is increasingly becoming a manifestation of clannish behaviour that has developed more from insecurity rather than any actual desire to preserve culture.

If a person refuses to acknowledge their heritage, then the term "banana" would certainly be applicable. However, it seems to me that this isn't always the case when using the word "banana".

This is already a great illustration of how banana/twinkie are not terrific monikers and arbitrarily assigned. My reply, assuming you wanted one from me, would delve into issues between mixed Asians and "pure" Asians. As I said to friskygambit, it would be very boring and not applicable to the majority of people here. Especially considering I'm inert in the sense of not on the market due to age, marital status, etc., there wouldn't be much to be gained I don't think.

AquaSnowWolf · #28 (**permalink**) 10-02-2008, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetyKat

Either is fine with me.

me too

Rhian K · #29 (**permalink**) 11-06-2008, 11:08 PM

Either is fine, I think it depends on what your looking for.

goodyear886 · #30 (**permalink**) 11-13-2008, 09:47 AM

I think it all depends on the person you are interested in.

I also don't think someone raised in the West is any less authentic. In my opinion, ethnic authenticity should not be any more prominent than other traits or characteristics.