[h2] Chinese need to work on sex life[/h2]
By Shi Xi (chinadaily.com.cn)
Updated: 2008-05-06 17:17

The average Chinese are among the least likely in the world to have an orgasm, according to the Durex Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey.
The Durex survey examines the sexual behavior and attitudes of men and women worldwide. Some 26,000 people in 26 countries were questioned about key aspects of their sex lives: health, general wellbeing, education, beliefs, sex and relationships, attitudes to sex and social circumstances.
The survey found that only 24 percent of Chinese in the mainland climax almost every time they have sex, the same percentage as Hong Kong people. On the contrary, Spanish, Mexicans and South Africans are the most likely to climax, with 66 percent usually managing to hit the spot.
Globally, 58 percent of those who usually achieve orgasm were content with the emotional aspects of their sex life compared with 29 percent of those who rarely do. Eight in 10 who frequently orgasm feel close to their partner during sex – a figure that falls to 54 percent for those who have difficulty hitting the spot.
Despite the low rate of climaxing, Chinese people are feeling some of the benefits of orgasm, with a whopping 86 percent of them who frequently orgasm feel at ease with themselves sexually; only 58 percent of them are happy with their psychological health. And while 30 percent of Chinese males almost always climax during sex, only 13 percent of women almost always achieve orgasm.
In order to help people fulfil their sex lives, the survey suggests massaging one's partner, taking things slowly, and spending more time alone with one's partner
"Regularly achieving orgasms help improve our emotional and overall wellbeing, as well as our bond with our partner,” says Dr Kevan Wylie, a sexual health expert. "It can also help reduce life's stresses. To achieve that, you need to have a protected and uninterrupted time together, keep the rest of the family at bay and make sure you don’t bring your work worries with you into the bedroom.
"It's also important to communicate with your partner and have a strong bond of trust," he advises. "Don't be afraid to tell them what you like and don't like in sex, the more you learn about each other's needs, the better it will become."

I have chinese friend who has come to me about female bodily issues. She said she has never and would never talk to her mom about her body. What goes on with your body and sex should be a topic of conversation between parent and child. (though I have never had that conversation with my mom, even though she says we did, but I watched a lot of tv so I should be good...lol)

I think if you become comfortable with a parent then you can possibly become more comfortable with your partner in telling him/her what you like/don't like/deserve to feel. My friend did say she was willing to go to sex workshops to find out what pleases her and her partner so that is something.

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I just can't help myself. Risk it all with me.

Only 24% of them have an orgasm every time? GOD , that does suck.

This has to be off. After all there is a Billion of them. Someone had to be spreading the love.

I think what the survey suggests is that having sex and enjoying it are two different things. Since most asians in China have kids for longevity of their family tree and economic reasons, enjoyment maybe tertiary on their mind.

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