hehe my brother tried to tell me that it's ok for Asian men to cheat..(which his asian girlfriend told him, so it must be true) hehe.

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What she means is it's kinda accepted in some Asian Cultures that the man can have a mistress and a wife etc. The wife kind of turns her head and a "blind eye" to his cheating. However, in some Asian Cultures, like Korean for instance, it's considered Adultery (if they are married) and is against the law. Perhaps the "wife" or whatever accepts the Asian man to cheat if they have an arranged married and there is no real love between them. Most Asian men I met were wanting a 1 on 1 relationship and didn't approve of either one of us cheating.

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when i started to date asian exclusively, most of the time i'd hear the penis thing...i told my mom i don't care about the penis size.

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God, what is it with the penis size thing.. GOD people need to get the hell over that. They are not any smaller than guys in other races.. fuck.. I KNOW this for a fact. That wasn't directed at you Sveta just people telling you that crap.

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The most damaging is probably questioning our masculinity every second of every min of any day. Which then trickle down to if we can provide/protect our significant other. We have to past through some litmus test to see if we qualify or not. If we do qualify there'll be new rules added thats made up on the spot to make sure we jump through more hoops. If we become an exception to the status quo then they will find something else wrong with us to justify their reasoning to why would any women would be with us. All their 'excuses' cancels each other out but they fail to even notice or care as long it follow their illogical train of though.

When was the last time you saw a 'a nerd beating on his wife' on COPS? So how can we be chauvinistic and nerds at the same time? Emasculated martial artist? How does that even make any sense.

And we definitely can't ignore the huge ass elephant in the room. We all know what it is so I won't bother mentioning it. Also, all you see is white/black men on tv commercial promoting viagra/cialis... and yet we are the only ones singled out and have problems in that area? real ly..... ...???? At least we can keep it up.

Stereotyping is a double edge sword if you can give it you hopefully can receive it as well.

You mean your mom actually brought that up?



Unfortunately masculinity in the west is promoted along the lines of "macho", "tough", "outspoken" etc. All characteristics of overt strength. It's too bad that not as many people pay attention to the more subtle characteristics of masculinity, like "discipline", "devotion", "humility" etc.

From talking with friends the most damaging is penis size or supposed lack of it.

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Cracked a smile that you went there with "banana". Lolz. I thought you Cantonese 1.5ers liked to use "jook sing".

Anyhow, seriousness on most damaging. Without a doubt the stereotype that Asian men are weak, won't fight back and are perpetual foreigners because it makes them racial targets of crime. If you don't know what I'm talking about google the extremely violent and increasingly common robbery-murders of Chinese males out on deliveries. There's one guy still missing in Virginia as we speak.

I guess that could apply to women as well because they are also targeted due to race for similar reasons.

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I had to use banana since it's more commonly understood than "jook sing" and not every banana understands hakka or cantonese slang. And not every banana is just cantonese speaking. But they all understand the term banana.

Yep, I heard about those news stories. True enough taitai.. Sad but true.

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