Originally Posted by AZN_North

Look, one can't fault you of where you are born, your upbringing, and who you are as a person whether you are easternized asian or westernized asian. However, you can change who you become and mature on that as an adult. This identity crisis for 1.5 gens are really asians who somewhere along the way lost the traditions, customs, languages of their parents and are now trying to get it back and rekindle the two cultures. I'm surprised whenever I hear of non-asian girls on this forum who are that dedicated into understanding asian culture and know far more than CBC's and ABC's. Makes me sad really. To think your own race cannot spend the same amount of time learning about their culture as they do xBox 360.

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Originally Posted by AZN_North

I'm going to make some points here and it might piss some of the bananas (PC term being ABC's or CBC's) off on this forum. It's not directed at Bofonics but the statement in general. Many a time I hear this statement of why '2nd and 3rd gen asian girls are not interested in me'. First of all there many fish in the sea. If not your town, then your country... and if not your country there are hundreds of other countries. You only bound by the perimeters you set. No one sets these borders except yourself.

Not all asian girls or non-asian girls do not go out with asian men. I think all of us are grown up enough to understand that it's not the color of your skin and hair that determine whether or not someone likes you. It's what you bring you the table in terms of your personality and everything else. Having said that there are certain preferences people have (as do you) of what they find attractive. It just means their conditioning and yours don't match. No biggie.. move on. Next! Billions of fish in the sea.. Second of all what's asian to you is not considered asian by others. Having black hair and yellow skin does not an asian make. You must posess the culture, the language, and the traditions. I can make a pretty good assumption that most women here are not attracted to asian men just cause of physicality but rather what an asian man represents to them, the qualities they see in personal experience that seperates an asian men from a non-asian man. If you lack those basic qualities of what being an asian man is then learn it whether it's taking courses to brush up on aisan languages, history, traditions, travelling, etc. In fact the same parents who you felt were too "cramping" your style are the best teachers/coaches you have. I guess that comes with age instead of rebelling against your parents you learn some respect for the culture and where they came from - heritage if you will. Pure asian girls (from the old country) won't even touch a banana unless you know the whole asian thing from age 1 and up. Banana asian girls (2nd, 3rd + gens) won't care for you cause of who they were brought up with, the crowd they hung with, and who the media influence is (which usually means westernized caucasians). Fact is if you sound "white", in your face style, no different than a white boy then you are associated as such. In other words, if you're white on the inside but yellow on the outside then asian girls (and most girls for that matter) will see you as white whether or not they date an asian guy to begin with. Why go with an asian who acts white when there are plenty of whites/black/hispanics/any other race around who can do the same damn thing? You get the drift...

Look, one can't fault you of where you are born, your upbringing, and who you are as a person whether you are easternized asian or westernized asian. However, you can change who you become and mature on that as an adult. This identity crisis for 1.5 gens are really asians who somewhere along the way lost the traditions, customs, languages of their parents and are now trying to get it back and rekindle the two cultures. I'm surprised whenever I hear of non-asian girls on this forum who are that dedicated into understanding asian culture and know far more than CBC's and ABC's. Makes me sad really. To think your own race cannot spend the same amount of time learning about their culture as they do xBox 360.

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Originally Posted by Bofonic

QFT. Especially when you get those second and third generation North American Asia girls who prefer to date white guys too. Not much fish in OUR sea