guys... or girls even
tell me how would you sweet talk a girl when she is pissed/angry,

this doesnt have to mean when she has pms. haha.

example,
like if she is pissed, would you hug her and tell her you love her. stuff like that...

or just slap her and tell her to snap out of it?
hehehe (not literally).

Have you seen "A Woman Scorned"? Make a run for the border!

Give'em a little time to cool off. Then go buy some flowers, chocolates and a puppy as a shield.

More often than not, just listening helps, sometimes they want someone to confide it to just let it out. And lets face it, they are more often than not going to vent to their best friend (usually female) first. If you're the cause, then see point#2. Then have a good honest open talk and find out where or what caused the feelings and try to correct it.

After that is when you have to start buying the I'm sorry jewelery.

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"I personally believe that U.S. Americans are unable to do so because, uh, some people out there in our nation don't have maps, and, uh, I believe that our education like such as in South Africa and, uh, the Iraq everywhere like, such as, and I believe that they should, our education over here in the U.S. should help the U.S., er, should help South Africa and should help the Iraq and the Asian countries, so we will be able to build up our future for our children."

I let her vent out and not say anything or give solutions!

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Just a reminder

Swede's Blonde Angels!

My favorite one is the blonde one on the far right!

I love them all!!

A puppy shield, that's brilliant!!

I need space when I've been pissed off, and sweet talking just feels condescending when I'm angry. I usually like to run away from my problems at first, and whoever is causing them. Then I can over-analyze the situation by myself and eventually return to talk it out in agonizing detail. That's just how I roll...

Sweden, you hit the nail right on the head with "not give solutions...."

In the Women Are from Venus, Men Are From Mars way of thinking (and I think there is a lot of truth to this), when a woman is upset and has had a bad day, she is looking for comfort, someone to listen to her talk it all out, but not try to tell her what to do to fix it. This matter-of-fact problem solving just frustrates us more because it seems like a lack of emotional support from you; and it seems like you are saying we made a mistake in how we handled the situation, and now here comes smarty-pants YOU to tell us what to do.

Yes, put your arms around her and comfort her, and tell her how wonderful she is. Don't tell her how to solve her problem...unless she asks for it.

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Lioness

In my case, I'd prefer a kitty ... AND jewelry :-P

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So many (Asian) men ... so little time ... ha ha

Sadly, I don't stay mad for long no matter how hard I try. Yes I have tried to stay mad because sometimes I think I give in too easily but I give in anyway.

More times then not I like company when I am mad. Like some have said, if I feel like talking, just let me talk, don't give me solutions.

There are times when I don't want to talk but the best way for me to blow off steam if for you to just be there, act normal, continue doing what you where doing. Just ask ONCE do you want to talk and if I say no I mean no.

Also a hug can pull me right out of my funk sometimes, not me necessarily asking for it. A big tight hug and I melt.

This is sometime I would wish a guy would ask at the beginning of a relationship.
Him: Do you like flower?-Me: NO
Him: Do you like jewelry?-Me: I don't even where what I already have, so new pieces are not needed.
Him: Do you like candy?-Me: The kind that is popular during the holiday seasons can stay in the store. Snickers and gummy candy are my fav and I don't want them all the time.

Finally-A puppy is cute but only once and you can't keep giving me the same one over and over. Also I think animals are cute but I don't want to take care of them. I'll pet them and maybe walk them but that is it. The owner would have to be him.

Sorry I can't help but ramble.

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I just can't help myself. Risk it all with me.

I just wanted to clarify that the male urge to solve problems right away is NOT a bad thing--it's just usually a man's natural instinct, the same as giving emotional comforting is usually a woman's natural instinct. On Venus, soothing emotions is the focus; on Mars, solving problems is the focus. We all need BOTH, so when Venetians and Martians come together, we just need some understanding of each other.



To even this out, advice for the girls is that if a man is pissed off, what I remember from the book is that the man is like a rubber band--he just needs some time alone to stretch away from you and sort out his thoughts and try to figure out how to handle his problem. When he's ready (and leave him alone until he is ready), he will stretch back to you and be ready to receive your thoughts and loving care.

Does that sound right, guys? Any Rubber Band Men out there?

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Lioness

That and a good space shuttle between venus and mars! Oh, and a nice stopover on earth wouldn't hurt. jk.

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