Interesting POV I saw on the net. Opinions?


"i wouldn't go as far as calling it a fetish, but if they claim to "love asians" , then their reason for dating you instead of someone else is partially based on your ethnicity

don't you feel this devalues your personal qualities? it's somewhat like being able to date a gold digger because you have a lot of money, which like your ethnicity, is a specific aspect of you that they have high regards for

i'm not saying i wouldn't date someone i really liked just because they had a strong preference for my ethnicity, but it would certainly make me feel a lot worse about my abilities."


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I don't think I'd personally date anyone who had a specific racial preference, and that includes white guys who date white chicks only too.

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In all honesty, a woman that has a specific racial preference, i.e. has an asian fetish even applicable to asian women that only date asian guys, is pretty much an easy lay. But, there isn't anything of substance beyond the superficial. This is just from my experience only.

I think saying that they are an "easy lay" is a bit too far. I mean, I've dated a number of white girls and only one of them I know of had an Asian guy as an ex. So, she may fall into that category that you spoke about but while she's "adventurous", I wouldn't categorize her as such.

I'd be interested in hearing about your past experiences though.

I agree with you and I definitely share your belief now despite my own experience on it.

I get asked this a lot. Why do I date Asian men exclusively? When I meet an Asian man, it's doesn't take long before this question gets ask.

This is as honest as an answer on this subject that I can give. My best relationship experiences have been with Asian men. And to be 100% honest with you guys, I am physically attracted to them. It's a preference of mine.

But let me give you an example how I am:

If I were the only woman left in the world and there was a guy from each race waiting in a room, and I had to choose one of them (This is just an example to try to explain myself) I would probably go to the Asian guy first because that is what attracts me. But if he turned out to be a bad person or an asshole, i would move on to the next guy even though he isn't Asian.

Yes, I prefer Asian men, but I would not settle for a man that is not right for me just because he is Asian. I have met rotten Asian guys believe me. So I wouldn't date a man or stay with him just because he is Asian.

This has always been a little difficult to make people understand about me. I dated men of all races and it was mainly in the last few years that I came to find that I just prefer Asian men overall. I feel as long as I don't date a guy just because he is Asian and let him mistreat me and put up with it, just because he is Asian, then I accept that this is just the way I am.

Believe me, I have been judged on this before and to be honest, I don't really care what someone thinks. I know I like Asian men for all the right reasons, so judgments don't bother me.

Oh and one other thing, just because I prefer Asian men doesn't mean I am an easy lay. A few I went out with would tell you that is definitely not true. If the guy is not a good person or an asshole, I don't care if he is the most handsome Asian man in the world, he is not getting any of me.

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I'm curious and this applies to the other ladies on this board:

do you get asked that question in general by mostly white guys are asian guys or is it split down the middle?

I get asked from white guys and Asian guys about equally.

And my answer is pretty much what I wrote above in my last post in this thread. I also tell them that it's to do with what I have found in Asian men overall. It's their ethnics and values and how they see things. I am not saying white guys or other races can't see things the same, it's just kinda rare and all.

I found that a lot of Asian men see things as far as ethnic values and morale ways the same as I do and that is what I want in a man. It helps that I am physically attracted to Asian men too. However, I don't mean that the Asian men I dated were all classified as handsome. The men I go out with don't necessarily have to be handsome.

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This is reasonable I think, and if I were a dude sharing my same mentality you wouldn't be ruled out in my book.

The difference is, you're not limiting yourself only to asians, being asian is just part of your criteria (maybe a big part).

There's nothing wrong with knowing what attracts you. I just think it's wrong to automatically rule people out based on race, and I don't think you do that.

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