i'm half korean and i'm scared that if i marry someone who's not korean, then when we have kids, they'll only be a quarter korean and lose all interest in the culture and values my mom instilled in me.

i'm also scared to have kids that don't look atleast part asian. i know many half korean girls who marry white guys and their kids have blonde hair and blue eyes.

i don't know why this freaks me out, but it does. i've actually ended a couple relationships over this, but in the end i'm much more attracted to white guys.

my mom thinks this is rediculous but it really bothers me.

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i know coming from a white girl it might not mean much, but my son is half korean and i think that teaching him his culture is important, BUT i also think teaching him my heritage and culture is important too, he needs to learn about all the sides of him, the korean, the puerto rican, the native american indian, the irish! and i try as hard as i can to do so. I think that no matter what your kids look like, you'll love them for WHO THEY ARE and though teaching culture is important, it's not impossible to teach them many cultural values from different cultures. hm...did i make sence there? haha

Not exactly the same perspective as you, but I do worry excessively (especially now that I'm engaged to someone who is not chinese), that our kids will not have the same cultural values that my parents and I have. I already find that my language skills are degrading from lack of use, and I think it would be a terrible shame if my kids did not speak Chinese. As far as looks are concerned, I do think our kids will be adorable, even if they look non asian, but it's really the culture, language, and values that I want to make sure pass on to the next generation.

yeah that makes sense. i know i'll love them no matter what but but but.....

so, my cousin is 6 years old. she's half korean and half chinese. she's the only cousin i have in the US. she refuses to eat kimchi, spicy foods, or anything really korean because she thinks it's going to make her smell bad. i eat korean food everyday and i never cared. it's her little remarks that freak me out even more.

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yes islandia!!! that's exactly how i feel. i'm not as caught up on the appearance part as much as the cultural part. but wouldn't you be a little bummed if they didn't look asian at all? i'm afraid that my kids won't look like they're related to me. =(

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I deal with that too...my son doesn't look white at all, i've had people say really rude stuff like "aww how sweet of you to adopt one of those poor chinese babies!" but i don't care what other people think about my son because the moment i start to care about that so will he

If it makes you feel any better, there are MANY non-asians who know helluva lot more about asian history, cultural perspectives, languages, idioms, etc than asians themselves. It's all about how your children are brought up and cultural values instilled within from childhood. Just like there are many ex-pats in asia whose kids are immersed in asian schools from childhood and they speak, understand, and socio-culturally act no different than the locals. In fact the first "white asian" I met was a guy just strolling down the street in HK. He seemd to be scouting at buildings and locations. He seemed confused at first so I approached him and spoke in english. He spoke back in perfect Brit english. Then the conversation switched to cantonese than mandarin. I was shocked and impressed at his diction and knowledge of cultural idioms and languages. Soon a group of locals gathered around us. Then someone told me he's on TV and in movies. Ahhh I then recognize his face... he's that white character actor that often appears in asian Jackie Chan and Chou Sing Chi movies. His name doesn't come to mind right now...

But the point is even in asia, as long you are asian "inside" and culturally express yourself linguistically like a local ( or attempt to), skin color is more often than not, forgiven.

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yeah. awww i bet your son is a cutie!

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he sure is! PICTURE TIME!!!! lol




10 minutes after being born ^_^ doctor said in his 20 years of practice he never seen a baby with that much hair!




It'z mah birthday!!!



WHY YES! my blue cake IS delecious!



So let me get this straight aunt sandy....we 'open' the paper?




mmmm ICECREAM!



ROAR! hehe

Your son is really cute Siren!