I thought I would give this a go and tell my story.



1. What led you to appreciate asian men and asian culture?

I dated another Asian guy before the one I am with now. Funny thing is, they are both Korean. I would say my first Korean boyfriend opened my eyes to Asian Culture. I had no idea how different it really was. There was so many things I just assumed that I shouldn't have. I learned to appreciate Asian Culture through him and Asian men. He was a really good guy but his family just didn't accept me. So unfortunately, we broke up. But then about 2 years later, I met the wonderful guy I am with now.


2. How did you meet your significant other? Circumstances?


I met my boyfriend at the bowling alley believe it or not. I went bowling with a girl from work whose husband brought along one of his co-workers so we could make a team to bowl against another group. I took one look at him and I was very interested in him. I couldn't stop staring at him all evening. He talked to me a little bit but I also noticed he was looking at me a lot. I didn't know if he was interested in me too or if he was only looking at me because I was looking at him. I thought he was so good-looking. I had asked my friends husband more about him. Later on I learned that he had asked him more about me too. My friends husband told me that he wanted my phone number and asked if it was alright to call me. Of course I said yes and the next day he called me. We talked for 4 hours the first phone call. We went out that weekend. I will never forget the first time he said something in Korean. It gave me chill bumps, it was so sexy. We fell in love not long after that and we have been together since.


3. Where do you see yourselves going forward from this point on?

I have dated him for two years and we just recently became engaged. We moved in together 7 months ago and it has worked out well. We have issues of course, but overall we are working through them and we love each other very much.

4. What have you learned from your IR experience thus far?

I have learned to be accepting. I would say that has been the biggest lesson out of it all. You learn to respect someone else's Culture and ethnic background. You learn how to compromise more than you do in other types of relationships because of the Cultural differences.

Another on going thing is with his parents. They are not accepting of our impending marriage so far. We have sat down with them and answered their questions and concerns as far as we can at this time. We don't plan to actually get married until next Summer. We are hoping that they are in better acceptance of it all by then.

5. What advice can you impart to others who are new to IR relationships?


I would tell them to keep very good communication open with each other. Talk about anything that you feel is hindering your relationship or if it's due to Cultural differences or language barriers. Learn as much as you can about each other's religious or Cultural background. Don't let friends or family interfere with the love and harmony you have. This is something I know can make or break your relationship. Always respect each other.




I have to ask my boyfriend if he minds me posting pics of us together and if he is alright with that, I will post them in this thread.

Very sweet story Kimi. I wish you two the best.

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The cultural differences seem to poke their heads in in unexpected places (at least for me). It's not just how (who) to worship, what to eat, or what holidays to celebrate. It's fundamental differences in the way we view situations, at least for my relationship, is that your experience too Kimi?

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cute story, good luck

nice story Kimisan. Good luck to both of you.

a nice story. Best of luck with his parents. Asian parents can be troublesome. I know

pics, pics! if hes not in them all the better. haha. :P

Yes Mango Girl it is the same with me and my guy. It's the traditional way he was raised that makes him think different than me in some things. He acts and thinks American mostly but there are sides to him that makes me feel I am with a Korean guy from Korea sometimes. Some of those things about him I love. But a couple of them drive me nutty sometimes. When I encounter them, I talk them through with him. He has the traditional Korean temper too. Sometimes it makes me want to punch him, but sometimes it's sexy. Strange that.

Sometimes it's the best when you find love when you aren't expecting it. I will tell my story soon too.

I'll be looking forward to reading it *wishes she could have a long term story to share.* Any chance there could be a section for am/xf relationships that aren't long lasting? Something that ended up in breakups? Sorry if that sounds kind of depressing...

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