ok, parts of our story is floating around various places on here...but I'll try to get it all in one place. Some will be old material for some of you!


1. and 2 go togethor for me, because meeting MGB is what got me liking asian men.

If you had met me two years ago, I didn't have an attraction towards Asian men. I am the white chick who bought into every racial stereotype about Asian men. I come from the whitest-white background imaginable. In my high school there was literally one Asian family, one black and a few mixed Latinos. To this day, and the town as experienced an influx of minorities (haha) the town is still about 94% white. My vast knowledge of the Asian male was based on John Huges movies and influenced by the regional racism towards Japanese at the time (Grew up in Detroit area during the 80s and 90s. I didn’t consider myself a racist. But I was. (well in a way I think everyone is to a certain extent) Not in terms of hate, but because I had already made my decision regarding every Asian man as unacceptable. I just wasn’t attracted to them. I am a big girl, I thought how silly we would look, some tiny Asian man and me. I don’t want to be with a man who looks like I could floss my ass with him….

MGB and I met when I started playing on his World of Warcraft server. I had some friends who played on this server so when I started playing I joined them. MGB's brother is a mutual friend of my friends and we all had a chat channel togethor of our little clique. I was pretty much immediately accepted by MGB and his brother. They were all ready at their end levels, working on this and that, when I was just a newbie. They gave me lots of help to get me caught up.

When MGB and I first met, I loved his personality (I know hard to believe those of you who see how snarky he acts). I wasn't looking for romance, I was married, and pregnant. I do admit to feeling a twinge of disappointment when he told me he was Chinese, but I couldn't explain it. I was just drawn to him for friendship like I had never been with another person online. We were totally platonic, but spent alot of time togethor in game (although at times he had to escape me!)I never even fathomed flirting with him (Somehow I knew it would be dangerous). But when money started disappearing from the bank accounts again, I knew my husband was having yet another affair, this time with me home alone with a three month old, it was MGB I turned to. I remember typing to him, with tears running down my cheeks as he snapped me into reality about my husband's affair.

I reacted to my husband's affair by seeking affirmation that I was still attractive to men. I chose some random guy to flirt with. When I told MGB what was going on, he got quiet, then responded with "Well, why not me?".

I was shocked. I knew I had this draw towards him, but I never thought he reciprocated. I was still undecided about ending my marriage, I figured I'd ride it out till my son started school so I could continue to be a stay-at-home mom. While I knew I wouldn't be mentally faithful to my husband, I would be physically so, and MGB was danger to me. And once the cat was out of the bag, we pretty much affirmed that we were each other's kryptonite.

Over the next couple of months we continually grew closer, and he made me a deal that he would wait for me to work out what I was going to do with my marriage.

My husband came home, and I know it was a hard time for MGB. But it only took two days to know that my marriage wasn't going to even stay one of convience and on the 3rd after after my husband had returned home, I told him to move out.

MGB and I met in person about six weeks after my seperation. I know it sounds fast, but my marriage had been dead for a long time, even with the birth of my son.


3. Where do you see yourselves going forward from this point on?

Well, I don't really know. Many days it seems like we're a perfect match and others we want to run away from each other, fast and hard and never look back. We definately have a love hate relationship. We are basically polar opposites. He says I'm motived by love, and he's motivated by hate. We've talked about marriage and children, and it's obviously the eventual goal, but we're not in a hurry. I love him very much, but we both realize that I need to be alone on my own two feet for a while before we make the next step. But he did relocate to be much closer to me! (he moves in next week!)

What have you learned from your IR experience thus far?

Oh god, so many things. But basically, it's hard being in an IR. There are times when we just don't see eye to eye. If men are from mars and women are from venus, once the IR aspect is tossed in there at times it's like we're not even in the same universe much less the same planet.

OHHH and Asian men are hot! (especially naked, god that creamy skin is just mmmm)

5. What advice can you impart to others who are new to IR relationships?

Learning to agree to disagree and respect each others' differences is paramount. Love your differences and see where they strengthen you as a couple, even if at times you want to choke each other. I think as a team, MGB and I are as strong as it gets (as long as we're united agaisnt something else, and not fighting each other, hah)

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You two are made for each other. Anyone can see it. I have seen a good bit of evidence on my forum of your love for each other.

I hope it's all you want and more MG.

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cool i didnt know you two met on WoW, that's awsome
i met the guy im crushing over hard on that game too... unfortunatly mine didnt seem to work out as nicely as yours, you two go together like rice and soysauce !

Yes you two belong together. Best of luck you guys

sweet story

you dont hide anything. das an honest chica right here. thanks for telling us.

WoW! It's so nice to hear story's like this...Because it gives us hope that there is someone out there for us; to fall in love with and no feel like we have to live through this life alone. Congrats! Thanks for the inspiring story. Awesome.

So MGB and I had this long term friendship, followed by a buildup to more than friends all before we'd ever seen each other in person. He knew that I hadn't been attracted to Asian men, and I was worried he wouldn't be attracted to me. We had these conversations often about whether or not we'd reject the other person once we saw them in person. We had pictures of each other, but I thought mine were good, and he kept saying his were bad (they were, he is very unphotogenic).

So the day finally comes when we were going to meet. He had flown into RDU and had a hotel up in that area because of a job interview. He drove down that afternoon to meet me. We were on the phone as I was guiding him to my house and we didn't get off until he was at the front door.

He walked in, didn't look me in the eye, gave me a quick kiss on the cheek and kept going. I was like shit, he doesn't like me. I on the other hand, was very pleased he didn't look his pictures (I'm so bad). He is hot!

So the night goes on, we take my son (who was 9 months at the time) out for his first steak. We got along well, but he still barely looks into my eyes. We came home and put my son to bed, and now I'm thinking, ok, my son isn't around, he's going to kiss me now. Nope. I went to look up something online and he came behind me and kissed my head. Progress I'm thinking...Then we went and watched tv and he started rubbing my knee..finally a sign!

We eventually had our real first kiss a couple hours later and it was worth waiting for! (He'll probably kill me for posting this and making him look moist) but he explained that he acted so weird at first because for the first time when he saw a woman he was at a loss for words. (Oh and he never made it back to his hotel that night either).

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Awwww MG that is so sweet.

And he might get mad, but at least we see more than his sarcastic side. lol j/k

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Yeah Mango Girl he might get grumpy about you posting that but it's good to know he has a softer side too. He can't be all that hard otherwise I don't think you could love him lol

It's really sweet how you got together. I am sorry about your marriage falling apart but then you wouldn't be with MGB now would you? I think you got the best deal out of it. Nothing better than being with a man that loves you.